Dear Aunty Lisa,
I’m in a really difficult situation and I’m not sure what to do. My boyfriend has been pressuring me to have ƨǝx with him, but I’ve been adamant that I want to wait until we’re married. He keeps saying that if I don’t sleep with him, he’s going to dump me.
I care about him a lot, but I feel so uncomfortable with the idea of giving in to his demands. It feels like he’s trying to manipulate me and I’m really worried that he doesn’t respect my boundaries. I’m scared that if I don’t give in, I’ll lose him, but I also know that I shouldn’t compromise my values just to keep him.
I’m not sure what to do. I feel so confused and stressed out. Please, Aunty Lisa, I need your advice. I don’t know how to handle this situation.
Sincerely,
Worried and Scared
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Aunty Lisa Responds:
Dear Worried and Scared,
I’m so sorry you’re going through this difficult situation. Your boyfriend’s behaviour is completely unacceptable, and you should not feel pressured or manipulated into doing something you’re not comfortable with.
Your boundaries and values are important, and you should never compromise them for anyone. If your boyfriend is truly threatening to leave you if you don’t have ƨǝx, then he is not respecting you or your relationship. That is a huge red flag, and you may need to reconsider whether this is a healthy relationship for you.
My advice would be to have an honest and open conversation with your boyfriend. Explain to him how his behaviour is making you feel, and make it clear that you will not be coerced into having ƨǝx before you’re ready. If he continues to disrespect your boundaries, then you may need to consider ending the relationship for your own well-being.
Remember, you deserve to be with someone who respects and values you. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable with. Stay true to yourself, and the right person will come along who appreciates and supports your values.
Wishing you all the best,
Aunty Lisa
