Dear Aunty Lisa,
I am feeling extremely guilty and lost right now, and I don’t know what to do. I recently slǝpt with my husbɑnd’s best friend and I feel like I have betrayed my husbɑnd’s trust and shattered our marriɑge. I don’t know how to come clean to my husband, and I am worried that if I do, it will destroy our relɑtionship completely. I feel so ashamed and I can’t stop thinking about what I have done.
I know that what I did was wrong and I regret it deeply. I never intended to hurt anyone, but now I have caused so much pain and I don’t know how to fix it. I am afraid that my husbɑnd will never be able to trust me again and that our marriɑge will never be the same.
Please help me, Aunty Lisa. What should I do? How can I make things right with my husbɑnd? I am willing to do whatever it takes to fix our relɑtionship and earn his forgiveness, but I don’t know where to start.
Sincerely,
Worried Woman
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Aunty Lisa Responds:
Dear Worried Woman,
I can understand the pain and guilt you are feeling right now. Cheɑting on your husbɑnd is a serious breach of trust, and it will take a lot of effort and patience to rebuild your relɑtionship. The first step in this process is to come clean with your husbɑnd. Honesty is always the best policy, and hiding the truth will only make things worse in the long run.
You need to sit down with your husbɑnd and explain what happened. Take responsibility for your actions and express your remorse and regret. Let him know that you understand the gravity of what you have done, and that you are committed to making things right.
Be prepared for your husbɑnd to be angry, hurt, and upset. He may need time to process his emotions and come to terms with what has happened. You need to be patient and understanding during this process, and give him the space he needs to heal.
It’s also important to seek professional help, either through couples therapy or individual therapy. A trained therapist can help you and your husbɑnd work through your issues and develop effective communication and coping skills.
Remember that rebuilding trust takes time, effort, and a lot of hard work. It won’t happen overnight, but with dedication and commitment, you can overcome this difficult situation and come out stronger on the other side.
Best wishes,
Aunty Lisa
