Dear Aunty Lisa
My spouse, whom I have been married to for eleven months, is not only attractive and loving but also my closest friend. During our two years of dɑting, we both lived with our parents and had limited opportunities to spend time together, except for a few intimɑte moments and a four-day trip.
Initially, I didn’t think it was a big deal, but now it’s becoming a problem: my wife is excessively flɑtulent. While dɑting, I didn’t mind her occasional passing of gas as it seemed natural and comfortable to her around someone she l0ves. However, now she is flɑtulent almost all the time we’re together, whether we’re in the car, slǝǝping, watching TV, or being intimɑte. It has become irritating, ruins the mood, and feels disrespectful.
I suggested that she discusses this issue with our family physician or gynecologist, but she refuses to acknowledge it and brushes it off with a giggle, saying, “Relax, it’s just a fart!”
She finds it funny, but I don’t. I even talked to my doctor about it, and he said that it could potentially be a sign of a serious intestinal problem.
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Aunty Lisa responds:
It sounds like you are in a challenging situation. It’s understandable that your wife’s flɑtulence is causing you discomfort and concern, especially if it’s happening frequently and in various situations. While it may seem like a small issue, it can be disruptive to your daily life and intimɑcy.
It’s concerning that your wife is refusing to address this issue and dismisses it as something humorous. It’s possible that she may feel embarrassed or uncomfortable discussing it with a doctor, but it’s important to remember that health issues should not be ignored or dismissed as a joke.
Your doctor’s suggestion that it could potentially be an indicator of a serious intestinal issue is a good reason to urge your wife to seek medical attention. Perhaps you could approach the topic from a place of concern for her health and well-being, rather than solely focusing on the social discomfort it causes you.
It’s also important to keep in mind that flatulence is a natural bodily function, and it’s normal for people to pass gas. However, excessive flɑtulence could be a sign of an underlying issue that needs to be addressed.
In any case, it’s important to communicate openly and respectfully with your wife about this issue. Try to approach the topic with empathy and understanding, and encourage her to seek medical attention if necessary.
Yours Sincerely
Aunty Lisa
