Dear Aunty Lisa
I am 47 and hubby is 42. I have been mɑrriǝd for nearly four months and we have been int!mate twice in that time.
I don’t feel any l0ve from my husband at all. He sulks and kicks off when things don’t go his way.
He doesn’t do anything for me and never buys me gifts or flowers. He is away Monday to Friday as he is a gonyeti driver.
I am his third wife, but he is already driving a wedge between us and threatening the mɑrriɑgǝ.
I am so unhappy, what should I do?
I have tried talking to him, but it is falling on deaf ears. I just don’t think he l0ves me.
What is your advice?
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Aunty Lisa says:
Well, this could be an indication of why he is on to his third wife.
You need to talk to him again, but he needs to know how serious you are.
It is not just something that is irritating you, it could mean the end of your mɑrriɑgǝ.
He needs to know that if nothing improves, there is no point in you being there because you are so unhappy.
If he is away most of the week, it means the days you spend together have to be quality time.
Being in the same room together while he slobs in front of the telly all weekend isn’t going to cut the mustard.
You can’t sustain a relati0nship like that.
In his mind, he probably thinks you are blowing this up into a bigger thing than it is, but small gestures that show you care can go an awfully long way like coming home and giving your pɑrtner a hug or taking them to the pub for dinner.
He has to start being less selfish and begin engaging with you or your relati0nship is over.
