Dear Aunty Lisa
I need your advice, aunty. I am in a bit of trouble. I am 28 years old and I have two children, but the father and I are not together. He supports his children when he feels like it. I can’t depend on him for anything. He is a great lier. If I ask him for money for myself, I have to agree to give him ƨǝx. Sometimes I do it because I can’t do better. I stopped giving him ƨǝx and my bills began to pile up on me.
I met a guy and we started a relati0nship. He is three years younger than I am, but he is working and he is very kind. He introduced me to his people and they like me. They didn’t know I have children. When his mother found out that I have children, she told him he should not take on that responsibility.
At Christmas, he took all of us to his family reunion and they like my two boys. A friend advised me to give this man a love potion (mupfuhwira). I did not want to do it, but when I considered about what I can get from him, I decided to do it. I didn’t have to do anything that is nasty, but since I did it, it is not working because I found out that there are days that I am looking for him and he doesn’t call or come to see me.
He says he is very busy. I don’t want this man to leave me. He helps me pay my rent and sends the children to school. He is a good l0ver. The girl that he is friendly with lives in South Africa. He told me that they are only friends and nothing more. I feel I am losing this man. He is not just handsome, he is educated. Do you think he is listening to his mother and doesn’t want to tell me the truth?
When he is with me I make him feel comfortable. He does not talk much. I have to dig everything out of him. Please tell me what to do.
